Monday, May 12, 2008

WOMEN... WHO WE TRUELY ARE

There so many fascinating things about women, I have read and even heard of so many stories about women that at times i have to admit that women are complex beings but then all humans to me are complex and when it comes to relationships, both sexes will say they don't understand each other and no one is to blame after all we are all unique. here are some facts about women so guys watch out...
“A man who is strong spiritually, sure of his purpose, and actively working towards the fulfillment of his destiny is the sexiest man on earth to a woman”.

• Because women view men as knights in shining armor, women expect men to know some things we do not know. The savvy man, who is well rounded, with knowledge on various subjects, is exciting to a woman. Therefore be well read, if not experienced.

• A woman who is fruitful in her endeavors and successful in her business is an asset to a man. Be secure enough to celebrate her accomplishments because you will also reap from them as her partner.

• Check the temperament of the woman to whom you are attracted. Is it all about her, or does she care about other people? This is a major sign of how your life together will play out.

• A woman looks to a man for stability. Inconsistency is frightening to her and causes her to question your intentions towards her.

• Women were created for relationship. Their hearts settle this area quickly when they feel they have met the right man. Be clear in your intentions so that there is no confusion on the status of your relationship.

• God created the woman to be a helper to a man. The woman in your life should make you a better man.

• A woman is a complex being. Take the time necessary to allow the layers of her to unfold before drawing conclusions.

• Women are disappointed when men who claim to have a relationship with God compromise their stand on purity.

• EVERY woman wants a man to woo her, pursue her, and win her hand. It speaks volumes about her value in his eyes.

Michelle McKinney Hammond in her book “Finding the Right Woman For You” has this to say about a woman

• A woman can make or break a man, therefore, not just any woman will do! Make sure she adds to your life and does not subtract from your quality of living.
• The enemy will use a woman to distract you from your purpose and rob you of your destiny. Check yourself and your productivity when involved with the woman in your life.
• If a woman begins leading you in the relationship, she will never stop. The way to earn her respect is to take the lead and keep it.
• Be clear on who you are and what your purpose is. Stick to your program unless God says differently. The woman for you will be a team player and know you are her assignment, and vice versa.
• A woman will follow where you lead her. Plan your steps carefully.
• Women are looking not only for husbands; they are also looking for fathers for their children. Do not become a lover until you are a husband.
• Do not settle for an okay relationship just to pass the time away. When a woman gives herself to you-heart, mind and body, she expects a commitment from you. She will feel betrayed if she finds out you led her on.
• The woman who will add blessing to your life will not deliberately lure you down the path of sexual sin.
• A woman will trust and respect you more if you take the lead in maintaining purity in your relationship with her.
• Women are attracted to men who have a sense of self and direction for their lives.
Need i say more ?...I don't think so.You have read it for your selves and no more excuses.
Thats all for now ...CIAO!

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

EVIL BENEATH OUR FEET

Got this sad but rather interesting story from Victoria's blog. Most of you must have read or heard about it,I normally ask my self what the world is getting to, now with all this happening what more should we expect?
The whole story is so annoying, disgusting and I don't wish death for anyone but am forced to wish so for for this HEARTLESS man. Truely, why would anyone do this to his daughter? I hope something serious will be done to him.

Not all of us can think of the evil that lies beneath our feet. Imagine being imprisoned
For 24years in a Dungeon beneath your house with your mother upstairs living a life of misery that she has lost her daughter and your father knowing fully well you live in the dungeon beneath the floors of the house.
Such is the story of Elizabeth Fritzl who lived in the Dungeon in Austria with three of her children aged 18, 19 and five, none of whom had ever seen sunlight or been to school.
This horror only ended when her 19yrs old daughter Kerstin was admitted to hospital after falling seriously ill that her Evil Dad or oh sorry!!! Granddad had no option but to take her to hospital and the letter about the horror she lived with was found in her pocket by the medical staff and the police were then called.
Upon investigation the Elizabeth and her two other kids were found in the Dungeon. Her father was promptly arrested and is currently in jail.
Elizabeth disappeared in 1984. Her father Josef Fritzl reportedly claimed she had gone into hiding and the foolish police of cause concluded she had joined a religious sect and decided not to look for her. Thus began her journey of pain and horror in the hands of her father for 24yrs.
She gave birth to seven children but one died on the third day and was supposedly burned by Mr Fritzl. Three of the children lived with their grand parents and went to school but the births of others were never registered. He managed to keep his daughter’s imprisonment from his wife.
Thank God for the letter Elizabeth wrote and left in her daughter’s pocket before she was taken to the hospital no one would have known this evil happened until maybe after Mr Fritzl death.

I personally feel this man needs to die for the horror he leashed on his daughter, he started raping her at age 11yrs then imprisoned her and forced his daughter to have 7kids for him??? Can you imagine that shit?
Now tell me what is he to the kids? A dad? A Granddad? Or EVIL.
Just as i mentioned above, he deserves to die or what do you think?

For pictures on this horror story, the dungeon a father forced his child to live for 24yrs and where he had sex and raped her countless times thus resulting to her having seven children of INCEST for him visit the below link..
http://news.sky.com/skynews/article/0,,30200-1314210,00.html?CMP=KNC-World&HBX_PK=2009_04_28_Daughter_in_Cellar&HBX_OU=50

till then.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

WE NEED EACH OTHER

Hello there, last evening I bumped on to my old school mate and she had all grown, I couldn't even identify her but thank God she did recognise me, you know that exitement one gets when you meet an old school mate, we straight away looked for a restaurant, helped our selves to some juice and well talked about what we were both doing, asked about our fellow school mates as well... and brought up all the funny things that took place while at school.I must say this former school mate of mine was really anotorious girl back then at school and whenever there was agroup of students going for apunishment she wouldn't miss out and believe me I didn't want her for a friend, but last evening I discoverd that we as human beings needed each other.I found out why and these are the reasons;We need each other...In times of private pain,of fear and stress.
We need each other...to share our joys, our times of happiness;
We need each other...to hold on and be strong, and encourage when things are going wrong;
We need each other...to keep the faith and love,and remind each other of all the things we're dreaming of;We need each other... now and always.
We are now good friends, actually I didnt like her behaviour then.

The above also brings to my mind the stigma affecting the HIV positive people in our societies, normally such people are discriminated in all aspects which is wrong. I got to know of a young lady who contracted the dreaded disease when she was helping nurse her mother who sadly died after along illness and when I talked to her this was her story,
"when my father died,our relatives came and grabbed all our property, threw us out of our house and we were sent to the village, me and my three siblings couldn't go to school any more since our mother wasn't working, so we stayed at home and went to the garden where we planted some food that kept us going. One day our mom fell so ill that she couldn't walk any more, she normally got sick but this time it was too bad.I looked for help every where but all in vain thats when I heard the gossip that my mom had Aids.I asked her and she said she wasn't sure and then I learnt that Aids was also got through sharing sharp objects and we as a family had been sharing razor blades because we were there for each other and when our mother died, we were left helpless and another tragedy befell us, our last born died too"

To cut the story short and to emphasise what am trying write is that, unless we realize that we, as a people, are on the same team, it will be extremely difficult if not impossible to experience the joy of differences and the richness of diversity. Let us always keep in mind that we complement each other. We share the common lot of humanity. Though we may be different, our needs remain similar. All of us need to be loved, to be appreciated, and to be needed. Let us get together and celebrate one another. Let us reset our focus and experience the joy of differences.

I have also realised that Our differences should make us reach out to one another. They should bring us closer together in order to learn from and about each other. The ultimate joy would be experienced as soon as we realized that each of us is a piece of a puzzle and, that without each other, we would make an incomplete picture. The joy of differences will be experienced by our fellowship with one another.

Therefore,The only way we can see ourselves objectively is through the reflection of others. We can go off and sit in a cave and meditate for years, but we only really find out what happened in that cave when we come out and get involved with other people. So we need each other if we want to evolve.
Till then.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

FEELINGS

Hello,and straight to the point, I think every creature has got feelings as shown by the response given and that depends on the situation.

Our feelings are a natural response to our thoughts and intentions. We don’t really choose our feelings directly. Our feelings are a feedback mechanism. They indicate whether we’re moving into alignment with our true desires (positive feelings) or out of alignment (negative feelings).We feel good when we’re moving towards what we want, and we feel bad when we’re moving away from what we want. And that movement is more about thought and intention than it is.
Well, for the moment this is what I have learnt and still discovering more about feeling and will keep you updated.

Now thinking about accepting our selves rather self acceptance, do we really value our selves? Or do we compromise?I believe most people simply compromise. They don’t fully accept themselves as they are, but nor are they fully comitted to lifelong growth. I think that’s a lame solution though. Why not have both? Why not fully accept yourself as you are and also be totally committed to lifelong growth? Can’t you enjoy both? Is there a way around this apparent conflict?Why does there seem to be a conflict between self-acceptance and growth anyway? I think the conflict is actually a result of a particular mindset.
personally I would rather accept my self than compromise, I dont want to fight awar that is never ending... u know what I mean?
Anyways, this is enough for today wish you all the best and be good to ur selves.

Monday, April 21, 2008

Treasures of life.

Hi there, came across this poem by Frank Armanno and how true are the words in it.
Often times we do not realise how beautiful life is and all we do is blame our selves for all that has happened or even blame our friends. I have learnt that no matter what happened or happens the things we do will always in away affect our lives either positively or negatively the same for the people we meet, all we need to do is live life at atime and just as the poem below says learn to appreciate life in its different challenging ways. I hope you will all learn something from this, do enjoy...



In my mind there's always aplace on earth where you find treasure.
it can be found in natural elements, gold, silver, & diamonds.
It can be treasures buried or lost by people who stole for pleasure,
A metal treasure hunter is always looking for the right sounds.
The act of searching in some way, is often froth with high pressure.



There are other kinds of treasures people find exciting & valuable,
they can be physical, mental, visual, spiritual &, imaginary.
The value is always relative to how individuals value unclassifiable,
for if the aim is money, a spiritual find would be contrary.
Big treasures are sometimes found in, a psychic mind predictable.



I discovered good new treasures because I followed with a heart,
it led me to a unique way of life that I would live over again.
Some childhood friends I had found I still treasure them all to start,
some have passed over but I'm still richer for knowing them.
And there's my wife for life & children, I thank them for their part



Never forget that life is full of unseen & unknown human soul strife,
make sure you go through life marking all heart felt meanings.
We never see value in human friends in a lifetime full of drum & fife,
but, a heart force of love in us all will start a souls dreamings.
Nothing is more rewarding when you remember, Treasures Of Life.


What more can I say...? Life is simply beautiful!!

JUST ME....

Seems today am being hit by the blogville spirit, I have this passion that i don't seem to understand where it has come from, now just wanna get honest with ma self and here we go;
1. Honestly, are you in love right now?
Yes.... am definately in love, but with my self...

2. Honestly, what color is your underwear?
Pink. Its not my favourite colour though but picked it up and thought would look nice on it...now, I wore it for me and no one else.

3. Honestly, what's on your mind right now?
A test I have at school, I haven't read as yet and gal the day is drawing nearer and what else?....... i have to think.

4. Honestly, what are you doing right now?
Blogging. I'm also working on my desk.

5. Honestly, what did you do today?
The day is still going on lets wait and see.....

6. Honestly, do you think you are attractive?
People say I am...how can people be wrong?...lol!

7. Did you do anything bad today?
No, besides the day is still young..

8. Honestly, do you watch Disney channel?
No, I even have no clue about it.

9. Why do you blog?
its apassion i have, and well just love it and also gives me the opportunity to express what i think freely.

10. Honestly, what makes you happy most of the time?
My family, my job on a good day and every day life, I love the challenges.

11. Honestly, do you bite your nails?
Wow! yes I bite my nails occasionally its ahabit I have been struggling with since my childhood days.

12. Honestly, what is your mood right now?
very happy i bet

13. Honestly, who do you want to see at this very moment?
my brothers and sisters

14. Honestly, do you have a deep dark secret?
Secret? Yes, but not dark as such.

15. Honestly, do you hate someone right now?
Absolutely NO! Why should I?

16. Honestly, who/what do you want to hug right now?
My grandie, its been long long... if only she appeared now..

17. Honestly, does your wrist hurt?
Hurting from doing what? Am not boxer or hand wrestler who I think do have wrists that hurt.

18. Honestly, are you in denial?
In denial of what?

19. Honestly, wouldn't you rather be having sex right now?
Pls don't mention sex to me...don't even get me started!

20. Honestly, is it easier to talk on Blogger than in person?
No, its not some things are better said to the particular individuals blogger will definately expose that.

21. Honestly, does anyone like you?
I think a lot of people like me. At least I hope so.

22. Honestly, is it going anywhere with them?
yeah, its going every where you wanna name.I wonder who....?

24. Honestly, did you answer all these questions honestly?
This is honest as honesty is.

7 weird things about me...

1. I don't visit people. Most times people who want to see me come to me... am not being proud but its just lazy me when it comes to visiting.

2. I always long for that day when I was alil' gal, actually do think about it almost each day

3. I hate being Idle. I start getting irritable and feeling sick.

4. I don't socialise very much. I attend only about 1% of events I'm invited to. Dressing up for a social event is such a big thing for me...I'm trying to get out of it though.

5. Most of my male friends are queer and I love it like that...bite me! lol

6. When am telling alie I normally find my self laughing

7. I totally disapprove of women sleeping with married men. I think it's too too wrong.

Sunday, April 20, 2008

10 THINGS I CAN' T IMAGINE....

Read thru Linda's blog and really liked the 10 things she couldn't imagine, so I gave it athought too and here are the top 10 Things I can't imagine

I can't imagine...
1. 24/7 power supply in Uganda.
Someone told me this will happen some day in Uganda...I'm a believer...but I just can't imagine it. Can anyone who is living in Ugnda actually imagine uniterrupted power supply?...like, there's constant power every single minute of the day, every day of the week? If you can imagine it, then it means my mind ain't working right 'cos I can't.

I can't imagine...
2. Doing without God
All through my few years I have lived on this planet, I have always put all my trust in God, to me he is the air that I breath, I lean on him, basically I rely on him and that means without him am dead so without God am totally useless...

I can't imagine...
3. Being depressed again.
A few years ago, the smallest thing would depress me. If I lost a client, money, or my business or love life wasn't going well, I would just fall into deep sadness, feeling like such a failure. But I've totally grown above that. Now, no matter how bad I have it, I am too too grateful for the gift of life and for everything I have and don't even have. If you have that kind of mindset, nothing will bring you down.

I can't imagine...
4. Sleeping with a married man
I told a friend once that I can never sleep with a married man and she said never say never. I might find myself in a situation where I have no choice. Well, first and foremost, we will always have choices. Secondly, when I had it so bad many years ago, when I was much younger and in the university, when I went for weeks without a dime in my pocket and days without food in my stomach, I never turned to these men. I can't imagine doing it now that I have enough money to take care of me...
I'm no miss goody two shoes, I have my off sides, but I'm too against the married man thingy. I'd rather sleep with 10 single guys in one night than one married man...that's how bad it is...lol!

I can't imagine...
5. Never having sex.
A friend told me sometime ago that she's never going to have sex again and I was alarmed. Never ever..? Like for real? I can't imagine never having sex. I mean I can imagine going without it for a long time, but never ever? forever ever?...ever ever? No man will go down there and wipe clean dem things? ...wink! !

I can't imagine...
6. Imagine my dad and mum ever having sex... though they are long gone
LOL! But they sure did...many many times. 'Cos they had us (Me and my other siblings). That must have been a lot of sex...just can't picture it.

I can't imagine...
7. Not having my own business by the time am 40.
I told a friend that I'm going to have a business by the time I'm 40. Am looking forward to doing this and very soon... by the way something is cooking and howeverthinks am not fit for business am about to prove you wrong just watch this space.
Like I always say, If you believe it, you can do it. And if you must dream, dream big, so am dreaming big...

I can't imagine...
8. Getting married
I pray to marry only once in my life and I can't imagine me as the bride, u know I normally feel achill run thru my veins whenever I think of marriage. being a Mrs so and so... quite frightening but I have to get married and am also praying that I do get married some day but I just can't imagine that me Brenda married.... I don't know how many people feel this way.

I can't imagine...
9. Never blogging.
I've been trying to imagine what will make me stop blogging...can't think of anything. I can take long breaks, but never blogging? My blogging will only stop when blogging doesn't exist anymore. What if my husband wants me to stop blogging? Hopefully he won't

I can't imagine...
10.Some people like Robert Mugabe, Kony, Osama Bin Laden... the list is endless of all those hard nuts who in way or the other terrorise the world ever being babies... they must have been hard babies who wre notorious even while in the womb!