I have been reading with keen interest president-elect Barack Hussein Obama's book, The audacity of hope and you know I think each and every human being on this planet needs to follow his or her dream, I know every one out there has adream at least.Honestly i thought that i would not live to see a black president this soon and not for the United States of America.
I have been thinking about dreams and not just building castles but big dreams and i have also been wondering how many of us follow our dreams and living our destiny. As of me, i have always dreamt big and am continuing to dream, only the sky is my limit. i always tell my self that there is alot of potential in me that needs to be exploited. However, what amazed me about the Barack Obama story is his audacity. You know they are dreams and they are dreams. How can a " skinny kid with a funny name" dream to be the president of the united states? I mean maybe some of us have thought about it vaguely before but it's one thing to think in your head and it is another to say it out loud. I am amazed.
How many of us have heard that kind of argument for an idea or a dream we have had. I know i have heard it many times from others. The truth is that it is not so much what others are saying about our ideas that hurt , it is the fact that what they are saying is a reflection of our own fears. Sometimes i don't even say my dreams out loud because i have killed them all by myself. At this point, i do not even let myself dream anymore. This takes me back to my question, how did this " skinny kid with a funny name" manage to dream that kind of dream. I mean wanting to be the president of the united states of America. Let's just look at it logically. His father is a foreigner from Kenya ( we all know how people view Africa) , his mother is a "regular person". He is not extremely crazily rich, he is young with not much experience and yeah he is black. May i say that the odds were against him. But still he had the audacity of hoping, of dreaming that he of all people could maybe become the president of the united states of America. This is very encouraging.
Barack Obama story makes me question all the excuses i have used not to follow my dreams.the truth is that i am scared of failure or better yet maybe i am scared of success. Barack Obama has put me to shame and has taken away all my fears. I now want to go back to dreaming like when i was a child. I want to go back to believing that i could be a senator. I want to go back to believing that maybe i can be a lawyer. I want to go back to believing that i do not have to be one specific thing , that i can excel in many different arenas. That truly the sky is the limit. I want to affect and help change the lives of women, the weak and the children. I want to believe that one day my name would be recorded in the history books. God knows i used to dream as a child, i truly believed that i could do anything with God's help.
Now that Barack Obama won, am thankful. Thankful for all the black Americans that have struggled, thankful for all the whites that made this possible, that looked beyond race and who said that we can not take back what we did in the past but we can start making things right now.Thankful for my African continent that all of the sudden became something hot. Thankful for all the broken dreams i ever had.
Above all thankful to God who makes us realise that dreams can come true if we believe in them.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
why do men beat up their ladies?
I have been reading and trying to follow the Chris Brown and Rihanna story, apparently I read some where that the fight was a result of Rihanna suspecting hubby Chris to be cheating on her, the argument started and Chris brown slapped her. The reaction from around the world especially from the showbiz zone doesn’t amuse me at all, tell me is it the first time a man is beating up a lady?
My young sister was too concerned that I asked her to tell me how many women in this world were being battered every hour and nothing was being done to help them out.
I have noticed with keen interest that the most battered women are those from the third world countries I know the developed world has to but the ratio is small as compared to the third world.
Most of the battering is by the way caused by domestic problems, a few days ago neighbor of mine was beaten by the husband reason being she caused the failure of their youngest child, how did this happened if I may ask? The husband claims the lady didn’t take time to teach the child hence the poor results. I find this awkward, I mean the child goes to school and besides he is in boarding school and if the man wanted the lady to educate the child then he should have let the child stay home and probably pay his wife the fees for educating his son.
I know there are a number of women being battered but what has been done to help is the question, in traditional African society, am told its ok for a man to beat his wife, I completely don’t buy this thought, why would the man be allowed to beat his wife and under what circumstances? Marriage I believe is partnership and also commitment so does it mean if you fail to agree, one then has the power to beat the other? Sincerely, I pray that this ends otherwise there is need for Gender equality be it at home or work, we ladies cannot just allow men to beat us up, we were all created equal and I have never seen anywhere that it’s written that it’s ok for the men to beat their wives, girlfriends and lovers.
Both sexualities need to coexist and if one is beaten and wiped out of this Earth, I wonder how the men will live, the good news is that other planets are being discovered to be having life, so the men might as well go there looking for women that’s if they can reproduce otherwise the planet may have to do without any humans.
Think about it, what’s the real reason behind men battering women…? Is it because women are looked at as the weaker sex or is that the way it’s supposed to be? Tell me….
Good day
My young sister was too concerned that I asked her to tell me how many women in this world were being battered every hour and nothing was being done to help them out.
I have noticed with keen interest that the most battered women are those from the third world countries I know the developed world has to but the ratio is small as compared to the third world.
Most of the battering is by the way caused by domestic problems, a few days ago neighbor of mine was beaten by the husband reason being she caused the failure of their youngest child, how did this happened if I may ask? The husband claims the lady didn’t take time to teach the child hence the poor results. I find this awkward, I mean the child goes to school and besides he is in boarding school and if the man wanted the lady to educate the child then he should have let the child stay home and probably pay his wife the fees for educating his son.
I know there are a number of women being battered but what has been done to help is the question, in traditional African society, am told its ok for a man to beat his wife, I completely don’t buy this thought, why would the man be allowed to beat his wife and under what circumstances? Marriage I believe is partnership and also commitment so does it mean if you fail to agree, one then has the power to beat the other? Sincerely, I pray that this ends otherwise there is need for Gender equality be it at home or work, we ladies cannot just allow men to beat us up, we were all created equal and I have never seen anywhere that it’s written that it’s ok for the men to beat their wives, girlfriends and lovers.
Both sexualities need to coexist and if one is beaten and wiped out of this Earth, I wonder how the men will live, the good news is that other planets are being discovered to be having life, so the men might as well go there looking for women that’s if they can reproduce otherwise the planet may have to do without any humans.
Think about it, what’s the real reason behind men battering women…? Is it because women are looked at as the weaker sex or is that the way it’s supposed to be? Tell me….
Good day
Friday, February 13, 2009
AFRICAN WOMAN; the single mum
Its been long when I last did some bit of blogging and its because I didn't have the time to do so, rather i didn't have what to write, on second thought I really do have what to write about i think i deserted my blog but i didn't do it intentionally. Am now back and before i forget, how is the new year so far?
Today, am dedicating this abstract to all the single mums out there and I must say that having read the books "Gifted Hands and Think BIG" the two books that i will always keep on reading over and over again. These books have inspired me to be the best of what God has destined for me to be...the books are authored by Ben Carson director of pediatric neurosurgery at the Johns Hopkins Medical Institutions, who is living proof that perseverance, prayer, and self-respect, combined with a devotion to acquiring knowledge, can overcome any obstacles in one's way.
He has performed several surgery of separating Siamese twins - conjoined twins especially those joined at the head!.. in the book, Gifted Hands, he chronicled his life story and talked of his mum, who was a single mum but yet pushed him and his brother to do more with themselves and not just end up like most black children in America to take the easy way out by turning out badly or a jail bird with the excuse of no father to bring them up!(Note: The black woman everyone knows, is a fighter and will always fight that their children come out tops and the best with or without a man!)
I was led to write this post as i watched Cuba Gooding jnr, Oscar winning actor of the 1996 film Jerry Maguire, on the View being interviewed by my "Viewlicious women-Whoopi, Joy, Elizabeth and Sheri. Barbara was away today. Cuba came out to be interviewed looking very hot on a pink shirt and jeans trouser...Elizabeth commented on loving his pink top and he said he was comfortable with his sexuality! So beautiful, and i said "aha" as i am crazy about my husband wearing his pink shirts...i intentionally pick such colors for him as only a real man can pull off those feminine colors and still look like a man! she laughs!
Well.. he got talking about his new movie and the role of portraying the real life Dr. Ben Carson, this was after he had spoken affectingly of his family. He has three children with his wife, two teenage boys and a daughter that is just three years old, who he says rules the house...they indeed feel her presence! lol.
He said in playing the role, he could put himself in the character as he too was brought up by his mum, when she got divorced from his dad and she pushed him too to become the award winning actor he is now.
I can not wait to see the film but indeed i want to use this medium to celebrate all those amazing single mums in my life. That has never given up on themselves and children, though their men bailed out on them...i have seen their pains, silent tears and felt their joy. but amazingly. They have done great jobs in bringing up their children with the help of God, who has constantly been their present help in times of need! I salute you all for seeing motherhood as pure service to God by bringing up Godly seeds...the beauty of their lives is, they have stayed strong and not one day. Have they poisoned the minds of their children against their dads! That to me is the best gift, they have given the children!
Well, back to the single parent, which is the core of this post I must say is one woman who is always out fighting and enduring the scotching sun in order to ensure that her children have a life to live.
I know of a woman who despite being thrown out of her matrimonial home with her children never lost all the hope, she went back to her fathers house from there she grew crops for sell and educated all her children, she fought tooth and nail to feed her little ones and now the children have a good future.
The single parent will at all cost do the undo able to achieve the best for her family, no matter what it takes she is appositive thinker, never looking back but striving to attain her goal. Am always humbled by the way these ladies lead their lives, they have this undying spirit, I cant find the right word to describe this kind of woman, but all I can say is I totally salute every single mother out there, its because of you that we are blessed to have world citizens with a purpose, come to think of it even Obama was raised by a single parent and more less a woman….
Need I say more……… ?
Today, am dedicating this abstract to all the single mums out there and I must say that having read the books "Gifted Hands and Think BIG" the two books that i will always keep on reading over and over again. These books have inspired me to be the best of what God has destined for me to be...the books are authored by Ben Carson director of pediatric neurosurgery at the Johns Hopkins Medical Institutions, who is living proof that perseverance, prayer, and self-respect, combined with a devotion to acquiring knowledge, can overcome any obstacles in one's way.
He has performed several surgery of separating Siamese twins - conjoined twins especially those joined at the head!.. in the book, Gifted Hands, he chronicled his life story and talked of his mum, who was a single mum but yet pushed him and his brother to do more with themselves and not just end up like most black children in America to take the easy way out by turning out badly or a jail bird with the excuse of no father to bring them up!(Note: The black woman everyone knows, is a fighter and will always fight that their children come out tops and the best with or without a man!)
I was led to write this post as i watched Cuba Gooding jnr, Oscar winning actor of the 1996 film Jerry Maguire, on the View being interviewed by my "Viewlicious women-Whoopi, Joy, Elizabeth and Sheri. Barbara was away today. Cuba came out to be interviewed looking very hot on a pink shirt and jeans trouser...Elizabeth commented on loving his pink top and he said he was comfortable with his sexuality! So beautiful, and i said "aha" as i am crazy about my husband wearing his pink shirts...i intentionally pick such colors for him as only a real man can pull off those feminine colors and still look like a man! she laughs!
Well.. he got talking about his new movie and the role of portraying the real life Dr. Ben Carson, this was after he had spoken affectingly of his family. He has three children with his wife, two teenage boys and a daughter that is just three years old, who he says rules the house...they indeed feel her presence! lol.
He said in playing the role, he could put himself in the character as he too was brought up by his mum, when she got divorced from his dad and she pushed him too to become the award winning actor he is now.
I can not wait to see the film but indeed i want to use this medium to celebrate all those amazing single mums in my life. That has never given up on themselves and children, though their men bailed out on them...i have seen their pains, silent tears and felt their joy. but amazingly. They have done great jobs in bringing up their children with the help of God, who has constantly been their present help in times of need! I salute you all for seeing motherhood as pure service to God by bringing up Godly seeds...the beauty of their lives is, they have stayed strong and not one day. Have they poisoned the minds of their children against their dads! That to me is the best gift, they have given the children!
Well, back to the single parent, which is the core of this post I must say is one woman who is always out fighting and enduring the scotching sun in order to ensure that her children have a life to live.
I know of a woman who despite being thrown out of her matrimonial home with her children never lost all the hope, she went back to her fathers house from there she grew crops for sell and educated all her children, she fought tooth and nail to feed her little ones and now the children have a good future.
The single parent will at all cost do the undo able to achieve the best for her family, no matter what it takes she is appositive thinker, never looking back but striving to attain her goal. Am always humbled by the way these ladies lead their lives, they have this undying spirit, I cant find the right word to describe this kind of woman, but all I can say is I totally salute every single mother out there, its because of you that we are blessed to have world citizens with a purpose, come to think of it even Obama was raised by a single parent and more less a woman….
Need I say more……… ?
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